Defeat or hardship in life is never permanent.
They are bumps in the road of life and you have to make a choice about how you are going to deal with them.
If you let them drive you off your course, you are simply accepting that you are a victim, and that your course is beyond your control.
If you look back with joy at how you dealt with those bumps in the road and overcome them, you are on your way to become a successful person.
Every obstacle is an opportunity in disguise.